wedding planner

wedding plan.. (Layan Sajer)

oleh Nurul Husna Mohd Sahabudin pada pada 5hb Januari 2010 pukul 1.08 pagi ·

Rules: Once you've been tagged, you are supposed to write a note with d wedding plan!=) At the end, choose d people u want to be tagged. You have to tag the person who tagged you. If I tagged you, it's because I want to know about u!=)

(To do this, go to “notes” under tabs on your profile page, paste these instructions in the body of the note, type your wedding plan, tag d people (in the right hand corner of the app) then click publish.)

1. how old are you?
becoming 23

2. are you single?
Single, Available.

3. at what age do you think you'll get married?
dunno yet. still in debating. i prefer 27.

4. do you think you'll marrying the person you are with now?
who? looking around.. may Allah ease may path.

5. if not, who do you want to marry?
someone who can guide me to the heaven's path.. Amiinn..

6. who will be your bridesmaid & bestman?
saper nak? peluang terbuka.. hehe

7. do you want a garden/beach or traditional wedding?
walimatul urus yg sederhana, ringkas dan terkesan di hati ini..

8. where do you plan to go on honeymoon?
dunno

9. how many guests do you think you'll invite?
hmm.. depend on the parents of both side..

10. will that include your exes?
dont have ex.

11. how many layers of cake do you want?
err, cupcake bley d potong ek?

12. when do you want to get married, morning or evening?
morning, when the weather is fine..

13. name the song/tune you'd like to play at your wedding.
aper2 lagu yg sedap di dengar..

14. ur wedding colour theme?
pink! no compromising..

15. do you prefer fine dining or just normal spoon&fork?knife?
pakai tgn.. ader enzyme baik utk p'hadaman.. hikhik..

16. champagne or red wine?
astaghfirullah.. HARAM

17. honeymoon right after the wedding or days after the wedding?
dunno

18. money or household items?
depends

19. how many kids would you like to have?
lagi ramai lagi bagus.. hehe.. harap2 dpt husband yg suker bdk2 jgk.. amiinn.

20. will you record your honeymoon in DVD/CD?
dunno

21. ur dream present fr0m ur future husband
honesty, loyalty and stairway to heaven.. =)

22. whose wedding plan would you like to know next
those who has been tagged...

ni namanyer x der keje mengcopy paste nota dr fb... huhu..

mode: lama x main tag m'tag ni...

Di lema~

Assalammualaikum...

Hmm.. Hanya utk meluahkan ketegangan dalam hati ni. Saya tak nak putus sahabat dgn seorang yang saya anggap macam abang sendiri... Jadi, saya kena hantar satu mesej yang menjelaskan perkara sebenar, dan bukan berniat untuk melukakan hatinya... Kena minta maaf juga. Tapi saya tak tahu macam mana nak susun ayat tu.. Jadi orang dewasa ni susah, budi bahasa kena jaga, tak boleh nak langgar...

mode: tgh rindu kat si kecil Darwish... raya cina aritu jumpa dia.. tapi dia da tak ingat kat saya.. mana taknye, kali terakhir jumpa masih bertatih lagi.. tup2.. da pandai berlari pun.. Lagi pun x boleh bawa dia tinggal dgn saya, anak orang lain tu.. tapi pengalaman sebulan dua jaga dia dengan ibu dia memang pengalaman berharga.. kalau nak ada family, perlukan kestabilan.. kalau tak kesian kat anak2 kecil ni... hidup tak terurus... hmm.. mampukah saya nak berfamily ni? usaha, doa & tawakkal~

Cinta sang Ratu~

Assalammualaikum...

Jeng, jeng, jeng... Gempak tak tajuk entry hari ni. Siapa2 yang dah tau perangai saya mesti buat muka... Dalam hati cakap tak gempak pun, ni tajuk novel jer... Yup, betul... Tajuk novel yang baru saja saya habis baca selepas novel Bagaikan Puteri.. Hmm.. Pasni nak cari novel bertajuk Hijab Sang Pecinta.. =D

Best dan menarik sangat novel Cinta sang Ratu ni.. Mengajar saya cinta kerana Allah.. Maksudnya tak kira bagaimana pun keadaan orang di sekeliling kita, asalkan mereka beriman kepada Allah, kita perlu mengasihi mereka semua.. Hmm... Walaupun kita tak mampu membahagiakan semua orang di sekeliling kita, tapi kita dapat mendoakan kebahagiaan mereka..

Pandai betul penulis Ramlee Awang Murshid ni.. Saya rasa ramai gadis yang dah terpikat dengan kesantunan dan ketinggian ahklak Laksamana Sunan.. Izinkan saya meng'copy paste'kan mushaf yang Laksamana Sunan nukilkan buat isterinya yang tersayang, Ratna... Ehem:

Cinta Sang Ratu

Laksana langit mencengkam purnama,

ibarat mutiara di lautan biru,

saujana mata memandang,

seluas langit terbentang.

Tatkala cinta berbisik, suaranya memuji TUHAN,

pabila rindu terusik, rasulnya jadi pilihan.

Sampai masanya cinta jadi taruhan,

Sang Ratu menjadi impian...

p/s: so sweet kan...

wassalam... ^_^v

Muhasabah: Bermanis muka

Assalammualaikum...

Alhamdulillah, tiada kata seagung kata puji bagi Allah Tuhan sekelian alam. Tuhan yang melimpahkan rahmat bagi sekian manusia di alam ini. Entri kali ini sekadar berkongsi muhasabah diri. Diri yang tak terlepas daripada melakukan kesalahan dan dosa.

Pernahkah di antara kita yang melakukan sesuatu tindakan yang kurang wajar dan tempiasnya perbuatan kita itu bukan pada diri kita saja malahan orang2 tersayang di sekeliling kita jua. Walau di hambat seribu penyesalan, tidak berguna malahan perbuatan itu sering menghantui hidup kita.

Saya berhadapan dengan pelajar sekolah menengah pada hari ini. Pelajar yang bagaimana, terpulang pada pembaca untuk menafsirkannya. Sememangnya dalam usia seperti itu, kita kebiasaannya bertindak mengikut emosi tanpa menyelidiki rasional di sebalik perbuatan kita. Jika ditegah, makin di buat; jika dikongkong, akan merusuh; jika disuruh, akan diingkar... Astaghfirullah...

Saya tak tahu cara yang lembut untuk menegur pelajar ini. Kebiadapan yang luar biasa mencalar kesabaran sekaligus menjolok keegoan saya. Tetapi saya sedar, saya pun belum dewasa sepenuhnya; masih pra-matang, perlu banyak belajar psikologi manusia... Api dengan minyak tanah akan meletup! Jadi saya kena jadi selembut air yang memadamkan api... Susah, tapi kena teruskan berusaha.. Kerana sebagai manusia saya sayangkan pelajar tersebut. Akibat perbuatan yang dilakukannya akan memalukan keluarga. Saya tak mahu dia menyesal seumur hidup. Saya mahu dia belajar dari kesilapan orang lain, kerana ianya dah terlambat kalau dia belajar dari kesilapannya sendiri..

Pernahkah kita berhadapan dalam situasi tegang. Situasi di mana kita tahu seseorang itu bencikan kita dan berhasad dengki pada kita. Tak tahu apa silap kita tapi dia terus menerus memusuhi kita dan cuba menjatuhkan kita. Penat rasanya untuk berhadapan dengan situasi ini. Sebagai manusia biasa kita tak dapat menghindari pemikiran negatif terhadap orang tu... Kalau ikutkan orang yang baling batu kat kita, kita nak balas baling bulldozer ke.. Rasa sakit hati sangat... Kadang2 tu rasa berdendam... Geram!!!

Tapi sabarlah wahai hati, Tuhan sentiasa bersama-sama orang yang ditindas. Doakan dia semoga suatu hari nanti terbuka hatinya untuk menjadi kawan baik kita. Berbaik sangka pada mereka dan layanlah mereka dengan cara yang baik. Pilihlah untuk memaafkan mereka jangan berdendam dengan mereka. Balas kejahatan dengan kebaikan. Balas batu dengan memberi bunga. Semoga kesabaran dan sikap positif kita dapat melembutkan hati mereka... (InsyaAllah) Manalah tahu, kita pun bersalah juga...

Jom baca kisah ni, Best...

BERMANIS MUKA...@ SWEET FACE ^^

Abu Yazid Al Busthami, pelopor sufi, pada suatu hari pernah didatangi seorang lelaki yang wajahnya kusam dan keningnya selalu berkerut. Dengan murung lelaki itu mengadu,

'Tuan Guru, sepanjang hidup saya, rasanya tak pernah lepas saya beribadah kepada Allah. Orang lain sudah lelap, saya masih bermunajat. Isteri saya belum bangun, saya sudah mengaji. Saya juga bukan pemalas yang enggan mencari rezeki. Tetapi mengapa saya selalu malang dan kehidupan saya penuh kesulitan?'

Sang Guru menjawab sederhana, 'Perbaiki penampilanmu dan ubahlah riak mukamu. Kau tahu, Rasulullah SAW adalah penduduk dunia yang miskin namun wajahnya tak pernah keruh dan selalu ceria.

Sebab menurut Rasulullah SAW,

salah satu tanda penghuni neraka ialah muka masam yang membuat orang curiga kepadanya.

Lelaki itu tertunduk. Ia pun berjanji akan memperbaiki penampilannya.Mulai hari itu, wajahnya sentiasa berseri. Setiap kesedihan diterima dengan sabar, tanpa mengeluh.

Alhamdullilah sesudah itu ia tak pernah datang lagi untuk berkeluh kesah. Keserasian selalu dijaga. Sikapnya ramah,wajahnya sentiasa menguntum senyum bersahabat. Riak mukanya berseri.

Tak heran jika Imam Hasan Al Basri berpendapat, awal keberhasilan suatu pekerjaan adalah air muka yang ramah dan penuh senyum. Bahkan Rasulullah SAW menegaskan, senyum adalah sedekah paling murah tetapi paling besar pahalanya.

Moga Allah memberikan ketenangan buat hati ini:

Ya Allah, Ya Tuhanku.. Janganlah Engkau memesongkan hati kami setelah Engkau memberi petunjuk kepada kami. Dan kurniakanlah kami rahmat dari sisi-Mu. Sesungguhnya Engkaulah Tuhan yang sangat banyak pemberianNya.

(Surah Al-Imran:8)

Baitul Muslim untukku~

Assalammualaikum...

Sejak akhir-akhir ni, bertambah-tambah jemputan kenduri kahwin rakan-rakan yang saya terima. Seronok mendengar khabar dari rakan-rakan yang bakal meniti hari bahagia ni. Tapi mesti ada yang bertanya, cik Husna bila lagi. Saya hanya dengan jawapan skema, sebuah senyuman saja.

Sukar untuk saya menjelaskan tanggapan saya pada perkahwinan. Tapi boleh dipendekkan kepada saya lebih berfikir kepada BESARNYA tanggungjawab yang perlu di tanggung. Dapat hidup bersama dengan kekasih pilihan, dialah sahabat, dialah teman memang anugerah tak ternilai olehNya. Alhamdulillah, jika Allah mengizinkannya.. Tapi saya tak yakin dapat melaluinya, dalam kegembiraan terpalit kebimbangan yang tak bertepi.. Saya rasa saya kekurangan vitamin 'positif' dalam diri..

Semua mahkluk yang bernyawa pasti akan mati. Dan kita tak tahu bila kita akan pergi buat selamanya. Justeru selagi saya masih hidup, saya kena menjalani kehidupan hari ini dengan kegembiraan. Seolah-olah hari ini adalah 'the best in my life'. Dan apabila satu hari nanti saya berpeluang menjadi halal bagi seseorang, saya hendaklah menggalas tanggungjawab tersebut dengan gembira maka barulah memperoleh ketenangan. Tapi gembira jer tak cukup, kena ada ilmu dan persediaan. Perlu ada kesabaran dan kepercayaan. Keikhlasan; semuanya kerana Allah dan meraih keredhaanNya.

Jodoh ada atau tiada...adalah berkaitan dengan masa. Bersabarlah wahai hati, ada orang jodohnya cepat, ada orang jodohnya lambat. Tak kisah umur 25 tahun mahupun 35 tahun, yang paling penting ianya bahagia berkekalan. Berkahwin memang sunnah Nabi, tapi jika kita tidak mampu menggalas amanah itu dengan sempurna pasti menambah dosa. Berkahwin itu sepatutnya menjadi landasan seseorang insan meraih ketenangan dan mengukuhkan keimanan. Bukannya menambah kekusutan.

Saya harap satu hari nanti jika saya berkahwin adalah kerana Allah, bukan kerana kebiasaan dan ikutkan perasaan. Membina baitul muslim dengan elemen-elemen mawaddah, sakinah wa rahmah. Kita tidak perlu merisaukan jodoh, bila tiba masanya ia akan datang menjemput tetapi kita perlu membuka jalan supaya jemputan jodoh itu mudah sampai dan tidak terhalang. Persoalannya: Macam mana nak buka jalan kepada jodoh yang berkat lagi di redhaiNya? Hmmm...

Sabda baginda yang bermaksud:

“Janganlah mengahwini wanita-wanita kerana kecantikan. Mungkin kecantikan itu memburukkan hidup. Jangan mengahwini mereka kerana harta, mungkin harta itu menyebabkan kezaliman mereka. Tetapi kahwinilah mereka atas dasar agama. Seorang sahaya yang hitam, berbibir tebal yang beragama adalah lebih baik.

(Diriwayatkan oleh Ibn Majah)

Definitely want to timeout!

ProductiveMuslim Timeout!

by admin7 Comments

Posted on Tuesday, March 15, 2011 in Articles

Over the past week, I took 2 days “time-out” time, away from everything to really take a step back from the tornado of life and critically decide how to move forward.

It was such a beneficial experience, that I couldn’t wait to tell the world about it, and I published the 5 minute Friday weekly naseeharegarding this experience. This post is truly to elaborate on this exercise so that you can make the most of Time-out!

What is it?
Time-out or also known as “solitude” is a simple activity of withdrawing yourself from day to day social circles for some time on your own. Sometimes timeout is an obligation upon the person, if the people in his/her social circle are of those who lead him/her to sins or away from the pleasure of Allah. Other times, it’s simply the first step to a life of constant self-development.

Why?
My first reply to “Why would you need to sit on your own?” is “Why wouldn’t you?”. It’s amazing how our “constantly plugged, always online, always with people” lifestyle has taken away one of the oldest tradition in our Islamic history and other civilisations as well. Ask yourself: “When was the last time you were alone?” I mean truly alone! No Internet, No iPod, No TV, no Phone Call/SMS, no people. Just you & Allah. I don’t think any of us have had such an experience, but can you imagine it?

Did you ever wonder if there was a purpose behind Prophet Muhammad’s solitude in the Mountain of Light in the Cave of Heraa BEFORE he received revelation? Did you ever wonder about the the purpose we’re encouraged to do i’tikaaf in the last 10 days of Ramadan? I read somewhere – can’t remember anymore where – that solitude is the first step to spiritual ascension. If you want to stay closer to Allah, you need to start taking time out and be alone with Him.

How is it done?

Preparation before the Journey
The next question is how do you do it? how can you have a truly beneficial time-out. I’ve alluded to some ideas/tools in the weekly naseeha, here they are again with some extra points.

Firstly, you need to make a conscious decision of allocating some time out time for yourself & prepare for it; Inform those near you from family and close friends that you’re planning this journey and explain the reasons for them. Decide whether you’ll go on an actual journey (a trip to a different part of town, city, country) or if you’ll simply be locking yourself in your room/garden/mosque for some timeout time.

Decide how long will it be; I would recommend a minimum of 2 hours and a maximum of 3 days in order to be balanced in everything else. Remember, timeout is not a selfish endeavour for you to “pamper” yourself and just “run away from everything”, it’s a thought provoking critical exercise for you to be a better person. Your family/friends should notice an “improvement” in you as a person when you come back.

The next step is to ensure you have the right tools for it. Leave any distractions behind: Laptops, iPods, DVD players, even books/magazines which don’t benefit. Just take the essential: a Journal to write your thoughts, a dictaphone if you don’t like writing and prefer recording your thoughts, lots of Pens, A copy of the Quran (along with its translation) as your ultimate guide in this journey, and perhaps 1 powerful and beneficial book you really want to contemplate on, e.g. A Book of Hadeeth, Seerah, some of the well-known thought-provoking classical Islamic books that truly open up new insights for your life…etc.

During the journey,

Observe yourself. Notice yourself when you’re happy, notice yourself when you’re anxious/sad. Think about the thought process that goes through your mind to trigger these thoughts. Record your thoughts/write them down.

Review your life: Review aspect of your life. You can use the lifewheel to help and observe the 8 slices of life and on a scale of 1-10 how well developed you’re in each one. The parts you’re now well-developed, think of action plans, things you can do immediately when you come back and short/term, and long-term goals. Look at your health, your family life, your career, your Islam, your community work.

Pandora’s box: Assessing everything in your life makes you dig really deep to things which you’ve hidden or never speak about; some people will find this painful to do and would rather not do it, but my advice here is to try and “plough” through them and resolve them within. The aim here is not to open the pandora’s box of past mistakes/nightmares, but simply resolve things you have “kept inside” and never had a chance to look back at them so that you can move on with your life. The question you’re asking is not “What went wrong?” rather it’s “What can I do about it now?”. Taking action should be the key word.

Action, Action, Action
Make sure that all your thoughts result into action and are not simply ideas/thoughts with no actionable outcome. And an action needs to specific; claiming that “I’ll start pray tahajjud from now on” is not an action statement but a goal. An action statement would be a series of physical steps you can take once you get home that help you achieve your goal.

With your thoughts in your journal/dictaphone, and the actions clearly specified. It’s time to enjoy the rest of your time in time-out and prepare for the journey home. You’ll be surprised how much you miss your home and miss your family/friends when you’re away even for a short while. Make sure you let those who are close to you know what you’ve learnt so that they help you get closer to your life of self-development.

Even once in a lifetime, the above time-out can be beneficial, but doing it constantly whenever you feel trapped and not sure how to move ahead in your life is a very beneficial thing. Remember, one of the most important positives of time-out is to help you self-develop, and as ProductiveMuslims, we don’t just self-develop, but we self-develop ourselves into a life dedicated for the sake of Allah inshaAllah.

And Allah knows best.

How to Stop yourself from Tab-Hopping

by ProductiveMuslim

29 Comments

Posted on Wednesday, May 18, 2011 in Articles

You know the drill: Open your e-mail, click on a couple of links, your browser pops up with some interesting articles, you read them, find and click on more links on the side bar, jump to Facebook to let your friends know about this awesome article you came across, jump to twitter to do the same, whilst at twitter you find some interesting tweets with some more links, you click on those, you get to more interesting articles… [to be continued]

I can see you sulking behind your computer screen feeling guilty about the above, not to worry, it’s a common behaviour, and I admit that I sometimes I fall prey to the above mindless surfing. Yes, Abu Productive falls into the above trap! But…the key is to catch yourself before the hours pass and you have no idea where they went. More importantly, the key is to redirect your purposeless surfing to a purposeful research/study/read.

We need to understand that the jump from tab to tab is our attempt to feed our pleasure senses in our brains with ‘mini-surprises’. Because the internet never failed to deliver a constant stream of such amusing news, it’s so addictive to find yourself constantly trying to look for the most recent, hilarious, or moving article or video clip you can come across online.

So how does one stop this mindless surfing?

1. Rather than trying to totally abolish it, control it. Give yourself 10 minutes of mindless surfing for every 90 minutes of work you do. Note: You must do 90 minutes of pure work first though.

2. Before you log online, make sure you know exactly what you want to get done, and write that on a post-it note and stick it on your computer. That way every time you’re wandering aimlessly online and you forget what you were looking for in the first place, a quick glance at the note will remind you why you went online in the first place.

3. If you’re bored at home, and really feel like doing nothing but surfing the web, try to think of interesting topics you always wanted to research but never found time for, e.g. some answers to fatwa questions you had in mind, or books on certain topics you want to know more about – just don’t allow yourself to drown in 20 open tabs with no benefit! Also, you could try picking up a book about Islam the next time you feel like learning new stuff online.

[continuing our story…]

So you arrive at those interesting articles, on an interesting site calledProductiveMuslim.com, and you come across this article and write a nice comment below and turn off the internet to focus on your work!

from the website:http://www.productivemuslim.com/how-to-stop-yourself-from-tab-hopping/